How To Realign After You Have Been Dumped In College
BY MIKKIE MILLS
It can feel like you have lost everything in the world when you have been dumped. It may seem like the love you had was is the most important thing in your life and now it is gone. It becomes difficult for you to even envision yourself with someone else. Fortunately, you do not have to. There are so many other things that you can do after you have been dumped. It’s not the end of the world, and you will soon see that when you refocus your energy and take time to do these 5 things.
1.Get Rid of Old Memories
The first thing that you should do is consider getting rid of the old memories. Delete this person’s number from your phone. Remove all old pictures of the two of you together from social media. You need to get rid of the memories that are associated with this person because it is only going to trigger painful thoughts. You need to move on as quickly as possible. It will not be an overnight process, but you can resist the urge to call when you have deleted the number from your phone. You will not go down memory lane when you have gotten rid of the pictures that the two of you are together. These are the things that can help you cope quicker.
- Consider The Benefits Of Higher Education Abroad
You may be having a high school heartbreak. It could be a college romance that has gone sour. There are even times where you may be an adult that is part of the working class that is experiencing heartbreak. What you will discover is that it is never too late to consider going back to school even if you’re older. Take time to study abroad and engulf yourself in a completely different culture. There is nothing like going to another country, experiencing a new food, customs and people. You may even find yourself learning a new language. There may be something that you have always wanted to do, but you may have never had the ability to do so.
- Have Good Cry
You don’t have to know all of the answers. It is perfectly fine to have a good cry. In fact, this is something that you need to do as a part of a purge. Express your anger. Get it all out. Take the time that you need to vent. These are the things that are going to help you keep your sanity. You may need to cry multiple times when you have been dumped. It’s okay. This is all part of the healing process.
- Call A Friend
Sometimes crying on your own is not enough. At times you may need to learn how to call out on a friend that can help you with some of the pain that you are going through. It is good to have a friend in your life that can help you process your emotions. If you want to vent you should have a person that you can confide in. That is why friends are so important. They give you the ability to look at life from a completely different angle. The world looks very different when you have another person that you can confide in.
- Take Time To Be Alone
It has been said that the quickest way to get over an old love is to move on to a new love. That is not a healthy thing to do. What works better is taking the time to be alone. Enjoy time to yourself. Look at what you can do alone and realize your self worth. That is how to become a better partner for someone in the future. Carrying all that baggage from one place to another is not healthy. Take the time to get to know and love yourself after you get dumped.
Byline: Mikkie is a freelance writer from Chicago. She has a passion for advanced learning, reading, and health and fitness. She is also a mother of two who loves sharing her ideas on education, learning, health, fitness and yoga. When she’s not writing, she’s chasing the little ones around or can be found at the local climbing gym or doing yoga.